2014 in non-reading

What a weird year 2014 has been. I started out the year wide-eyed and optimistic – that my life would be a better version of what it has always been for years. I’ve set a few goals, planned a few trips and felt like a superhero. I’ve even set my 2014 reading goals to an ambitious 52 books before the year ends, because I was feeling brave and fancy, but well, we all know what happened to that. (I failed at 23 books only huhu).

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2014 was definitely not a year for reading but looking back, I don’t think I have lived a life as fully as I did last year. There were so many changes that happened to me. So many decisions, so many hurts and pains, failures, and joys, and so many lessons learned. It will be juicier to write about the many life events that happened but as I also resolved to tone down on the oversharing, I think it’ll be much more worth it to share what I’ve learned instead: The more you insist on sticking to a rigid life plan, the more it’ll hurt when those plans taper off. It’s terrifying to face an uncertain future, but aren’t all our futures uncertain really? I don’t think anyone could see much from where they are right now, and my over-controlling urges for what should happen were making me unnecessarily suffer. I cannot control everything. People will disappoint me, I will disappoint people, things will not go according to plan but things will be fine, more or less, and eventually. I’m not suggesting that you go into your life battles without at least a dagger because that’s naïve and idiotic, but I learned that being dynamic to life’s changes is far more rewarding than strictly following a life plan down to its tiniest bullet points. This is easier said than done of course, and I’m still struggling to separate what has happened to what is happening, and what could. I need to nail to my brain the idea that although much of my past will influence my future, the future isn’t guaranteed to mimic what happened yesterday, or what’s happening today, or anything at all. Plainly, the future is not guaranteed and you control what you can right now and fervently hope your efforts pay off tomorrow. Life is crazy. It’s beautiful, it’s sad and it’s ever-changing. Be like water. Happy new year, people.

2014 in non-reading

Piloting This Ship

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, and some have been really dumb but if there’s one mistake I’m proud to have never made was that never, not even once did I ever let other people run my life for me.

People and circumstances will influence a lot of my actions but ultimately, this is my life. Whatever thing I did, I will take full responsibility. I will not make decisions and then blame things and people – my parents, my heritage, my race, my… whatever. I mean, while all these things have been factored in, my decisions are still MY decisions. The cowardice that has stopped me from doing things was my cowardice, but in the same vein, my bravery was all mine too. Full accountability in both the good and the bad.

I still whine about the bad cards I’ve been dealt with. I still wish I had it better – I wish I was richer, smarter, and had a better upbringing for example, but if I had the sense to spot the flaws with which I was brought up, I figured I would also have the sense to change things in my life, including myself, for the better. And then accept the things I couldn’t.

Ah, life’s becoming weirdly difficult to pilot the older you get.

Piloting This Ship

Paul Pope’s Heavy Liquid

Heavy Liquid is my second Paul Pope book after the thoroughly entertaining Battling Boy (which, I noticed, I have not written about lol), and I can see why my friend (i.e. Pope mega fanboy) kept noting about Pope’s self-indulgence in this book. I know that Paul Pope enjoys inking and there’s not a book that would attest to that as much as Heavy Liquid did.

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Heavy Liquid is a bizarre story about S (short for Stooge), and a heavy liquid – a mysterious, precious metal S has stolen from one of the clown gangs of the city. For a man who both writes and illustrates his books, Paul Pope did incredibly well with the dynamism and intensity of the story and the art was interesting with some gorgeous, gorgeous stand-alone pieces. I admit that it was a bit off-putting at first – I have not been exposed to art so inked that it was initially disconcerting but the visual noise Pope rendered fits very well with the cyber-punk, thriller setting.

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The story was also pretty entertaining – a scifi detective thriller in a future setting, with that insane clown posse with cubist masks; a hilarious cray cray girl gang; an art collector that reminds me of Mr. Motley; friends leaving; leaving friends; and a love lost, found and lost again.

The art fits the mood of the story so well too that reading it felt like reading a somber rock and roll song – heavy, fun, but sad.  Like, like… Interpol in graphic format.

I enjoyed this book very much and I’m glad to be exploring some new, fun, and good comic books. I can’t wait to read 100% after this.

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Paul Pope’s Heavy Liquid

The Romance of Virginia Woolf and Vita Sackville-West

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…I am reduced to a thing that wants Virginia. I composed a beautiful letter to you in the sleepless nightmare hours of the night, and it has all gone: I just miss you, in a quite simple desperate human way. You, with all your undumb letters, would never write so elementary a phrase as that; perhaps you wouldn’t even feel it. And yet I believe you’ll be sensible of a little gap. But you’d clothe it in so exquisite a phrase that it should lose a little of its reality. Whereas with me it is quite stark: I miss you even more than I could have believed; and I was prepared to miss you a good deal. So this letter is really just a squeal of pain. It is incredible how essential to me you have become. I suppose you are accustomed to people saying these things. Damn you, spoilt creature; I shan’t make you love me any more by giving myself away like this — But oh my dear, I can’t be clever and stand-offish with you: I love you too much for that. Too truly. You have no idea how stand-offish I can be with people I don’t love. I have brought it to a fine art. But you have broken down my defenses. And I don’t really resent it.

So… yeah. Virginia Woolf is one of my favorite female writers and she (apparently) had an affair with Vita Sackville-West, an English poet who will become her lifelong friend. The quote above is taken from a letter by Vita to Virginia and dayummm.

The Romance of Virginia Woolf and Vita Sackville-West

Try the hell out of yourself.

So… I dropped by Goodreads today out of sheer habit and was glared at by a vicious reminder of my flaws:

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That would be 3 books in two days too. Not exactly a proud stat for someone who considers herself readerly. I haven’t book-blogged for two months now. Two months!

So what’s been up?

First: I haven’t really been feeling too chatty as of late. My mind is all over the place and it has become too taxing to switch roles: from wifey, to mama cat, to corporate biatch, to socially inebriated friendy friend, to… many other roles I have to play on a weekly basis. It’s quite difficult maintaining a healthy social life, some physical activities, do good at work, and nurture my nerdery all at the same time. I also had some personal issues I needed to work through which were very mentally exhausting.

People have been bothering me about TV episodes I cannot catch up with, and books I haven’t been reading, and believe me – I tried. I try very hard, actually, but I need to sleep too.

Second: For some strange reason, the outdoors have become unduly fascinating to me. I’ve climbed two major mountains in the last three months and worried myself to eyebags for both trips. They have not been easy but mountains are so grounded, and so strong, and they all feel potent and permanent to me. I want to climb them all just for the heck of it.

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Mt. Kinabalu 2014

Don’t get me wrong  though – I am not a great hiker; I am a card-carrying Super Noob. I am always, always worried, nervous, and scared, and my pace is slow, but “nothing else exists, only the climb.” Mountains are so unforgiving and I’ve waded through dark, maladaptive behaviors to haul myself up to the top, and I always have (so far) and I plan to always do. I have so many insecurities and doubts, but dark thoughts will not give me shelter, they will not give me those impossible views, they will not get me anywhere. Nothing else exists, only the climb.

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Mt. Pulag 2014 by Michael Jay Abalos

I’ve just gotten back from a trip. It was the most outdoorsy I’ve ever been in my entire life (literally!) and I’m so drained but I am so happy. I always question my sanity before and during these relentless adventuring but I need to write this down to remind me why I keep doing this to myself – I am happy, I feel so brave, and weathering through cruel discomforts makes my soul grow. 

I am back in one piece albeit nursing an injured tailbone. I didn’t even know I had a tailbone and now I hurt it, and I cannot ascend anything without wincing. As much as I am taking delight in feeling extreme and intense outside with no roof on top of my head,  I’m taking this  as a sign to lean back gently, open a book, and go back to old loves.

I cannot wait to read again.

Try the hell out of yourself.

What are men to rocks and mountains?*

Ah, I’m still alive. February passed like a hand waving from a train I wanted to be on** and I was still rushing through my deadlines when suddenly March comes rolling in with its new set of target dates and challenges and frivolities. The last month has been an arduous struggle in getting my groove back. I have become Andy Dwyer:

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… except that reading still interests me, though not as ardently as it did a few months ago. People have suggested a serious case of post-travel blues but I got back home from the great Malaysian mountain adventure on the 28th of January and a month of post-travel blues is simply ridiculous.  I blame the sluggishness on fairly recent tragedies which has made February a traumatic calendar event – it is my dead mother’s birthday month which coincides with my nephew’s death and THEN my uncle died. The meanest month my life ever did see. I hope March is gentler.

Oh well, regardless. I’m here and I’m still reading. Here are some of the books I finished last month:

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Maus I : A Survivor’s Tale : My Father Bleeds History
Maus, Vol. 2: And Here My Troubles Began, both by Art Spiegelman

The Maus books is “a story of a Jewish survivor of Hitler’s Europe and his son, a cartoonist who tries to come to terms with his father’s story and history itself.”

The books were riveting and brutal, and savage and heartbreaking.Probably not the best companion books for an already-disheartening month but I was glad I read this important work. It was an excellent visual way of learning and understanding the terrible chapter of Jewish and world history.

I borrowed this from Shiela. Thanks!

The Outlander by Diana Gabaldon

I’ve heard so much about this book and being a sucker for historical romances, I just cannot miss it (especially when it presented itself to me during one of my last hunting sprees at La Belle Aurore, which is now sadly closed :(). It is a fun book, much drama, such 15th century, many romance. Wow. It was a WHALE of a book though but the intricacies of Highlander politics and the culture and everydayness of Scotland in the 1700’s was well presented, well thought-out.

And hey, there’s a series from Starz to be premiered this year.

Midsummer Moon by Laura Kinsale

My first Laura Kinsale, also a bargain find. It was fun – the lady was a clumsy inventress, and the Duke was…well, a Duke and it was romantic and fun and light-hearted and yeah… I am not very good at reviewing books, why do I have a book blog.

The Ocean at the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman

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The Ocean… feels like a Pratchett novel without much of the typical Pratchettian silliness. Specifically, it feels like a Tiffany Aching book with a quirky witch girl and two elder witches. It’s been a long time since I read a Gaiman novel (probably because it HAS been a long time since he wrote a non-YA novel), but there’s always something so lukewarm about his works to me. Apart from the excellent Sandman series, his novels have always felt so trite and just okay

Just to clarify: this was a fun read and very entertaining towards the end, but it was just… fine. It was nowhere near as good as the standard I have for Gaiman.  I remember feeling the same way about his other works;  whenever I’m about to read one of his new novels, I wanted so much to like it. The certain hype that follows him around lends a gravitas to the expectations I have for him, and I (sadly) find myself repeatedly disappointed.

Oh wells, this has been a good read but not what I would recommend for someone looking to read their first Neil Gaiman.

Thanks, Odina!

* Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
** Jonathan Safran Foer

What are men to rocks and mountains?*

Wolf of the Steppes – For Madmen Only

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“There once was a man….called the Steppenwolf. He went on two legs, wore clothes and was a human being, but nevertheless he was in reality a wolf of the Steppes. He had learned a good deal of all that people of a good intelligence can, and was a fairly clever fellow. What he had not learned, however, was this: to find contentment in himself and his own life…”

I am not quite sure what to feel about Hermann Hesse’s Der Steppenwolf (“the wolf of the steppes”). The language is beautiful, without a doubt, but it sometimes reeks of self-absorption. It’s very solipsistic and masturbatory and further reading into the author’s background while he was writing the book tells so much about his life crisis during that time.

Der Steppenwolf was the last book I read for 2013  in my fortress of solitude and while I was deeply enamored of the whole thing while reading it, it is a bit pretentious in retrospect.  Pretentious, not because it is elitist by nature, but because the character is too focused on identities – a very first world problem. No wonder kids fall over themselves for this book. Identity crises are issues of either teenagers or the privileged – something I find annoying now that I’m entering my late twenties and have no qualms rubbing my “wisdom” in other people’s faces. Oh, you’re not content with your life? Try not having enough money to buy food for you and your six children! Oh, having dejection issues? Try losing your home in a flood and seeing the rest of your family die a watery death!

I know, I know. Depression is a serious mental health illness but to read a fantastical book and identify yourself with a character that incessantly questions the meaning of life because he gets a weekly allowance and doesn’t have to think about his next meal is clearly teenage.  Oh so you’re destined to be alone? Nobody understands you? Nothing in this world interests you and you’d be better off dead? GET A BLOODY GRIP, STEPPENWOLF!

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I know I am waving my prejudices out in the open, my ageism especially, but this book gets really rambly for so many pages and for so long. It was beautiful rambling, mind you, but rambling is rambling. Shit also gets weird towards the end, especially the bit on the Magic Theater (For Madmen Only) where everything suddenly becomes trippy, Burtonian. I expected Johnny Depp in a funny hat to appear any second. This is a huge contrast to the wallowing, maudlin ramblings of yester-chapters so I don’t know what to make of the whole thing apart from Hesse’s interpretation of Harry Haller (der Steppenwolf) descending from mild depression masquerading as identity crisis to a full-blown mental breakdown.

Hesse did commented on hope – that this book has been misinterpreted by many and while agonizing, this book should ultimately give us hope. Hmm. Hope for… misanthropes? For suicides? For killing beautiful things? For dancing? For people who wish to find their inner woman?

Bah, I wish I was 16 again. Or maybe 55.

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Wolf of the Steppes – For Madmen Only

“The banished sun circles the earth, like a grieving mother with a lamp.”

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The Road is a profoundly moving story of a post-apocalyptic journey to a desecrated future where no hope remains, but in which a father and his son, “each the other’s world entire,” are sustained by love, by their own versions of faith in a greater good.  And in a fire that keeps burning amidst the dark, gray, and dreary earth.  The Road is a harrowing story about fatherhood, love, and hope, and everything is sad and beautiful, and everything hurts.

This is my first Cormac McCarthy and his literary style of reductive sentences and sparse vocabulary best suits his philosophical pessimism and the thin plot he lays out. The story is single-layered and it is McCarthy’s beautiful writing that carries the novel through the bleakness and despair. The scant sentence fragments strung together create a sense of danger and desperation that the Father and the Son live through everyday – a life so devoid of simple human pleasures that only the perpetuation of self and human goodness defines them as being alive.

Their conversations have a silence to it – a silence especially boosted by the lack of marks that evokes the lullness of the world itself.

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I am very sad after reading the book, and the gloomy weather compounded my feeling of desolation but  ultimately, as with all books I’ve read, I am glad that I found the courage to read it.  It is dismal, yes, but it is also filled with hope and the contrast of the ashen Earth of The Road made me grateful for this tiny island that I live in, for the love of family I enjoyed all through the years, for what I am, and for what I have to give.

Absolutely sparse and bleak and beautiful, I recommend this book to everyone.

Do you think I should watch the movie?

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“The banished sun circles the earth, like a grieving mother with a lamp.”

Books! Food! Music! Board Games!

Hey, everyone. I did not die – only slumped with deadlines and torpidity. I have completed exactly one book for the month of November, and I am having a heated relationship with Brandon Sanderson’s Elantris. I have heard so much about this man and my good friends are great fans but I can’t seem to get past the 80th page. Oh well.

I have been playing board games a lot though, which explains this post. I’m attending an awesome albeit laid back event tomorrow that features some of my favorite things:

Books! (La Belle Aurore Bookshop) Food! (Bintana Cafe), Music! (musical people) and Board Games! (Cebu Board Gaming Society).

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Books! Food! Music! Board Games!

#YolandaPH Book Drive

I’m selling some of my books to buy more water for victims of super-typhoon Yolanda which threatened to decimate the beautiful islands of Visayas and Palawan. The destructive forces of nature and bad geographical location may have taken our loved ones but we shall not let those darn things kill our spirit.

Please check this spreadsheet for updates.

BOOKS SOLD:

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 BOOKS FOR SALE:

This spreadsheet  has the latest updates on the status of the books.

As of 11/19/2013:

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After Breast Cancer 40 trade paperback
Hunter S. Thompson – Fear and Loathing: on the Campaign Trail ’72 50 paperback; minor shelf wear but in good condition
Jerry Hopkins – No One Here Gets Out Alive (Jim Morrison bio) 40 paperback; in great condition
David Sedaris – Me Talk Pretty One Day 40 paperback; in good condition
Vladimir Nabokov – Lolita 60 paperback; yellowed but in good condition
Arlene J. Chai – The Last Time I Saw Mother 40 trade paperback
Ewing – Goddess of the Night (Daughters of the Moon) 40 hardcover
Mary Balogh – At Last Comes Love 30 paperback. Good as new
Lois Lowry – Number the Stars 10 trade paperback. Old copy but in good condition
Charles Dickens – David Copperfield 30 paperback; in good condition
Piers Anthony – For Love of Evil 30 paperback; in good condition
Piers Anthony – Question Quest 30 paperback; in good condition
Stephen King – The Dark Tower I: The Gunslinger 30 paperback; yellowed but in good condition
#YolandaPH Book Drive